As opposed to traditional Divorce Litigation, the goal of Divorce Mediation is to assist two spouses in coming to a divorce settlement agreement that’s mutually acceptable. For some couples, Divorce Mediation offers a lot of significant benefits that go beyond its cost-effectiveness and timeliness:

You & Your Spouse Control The Outcome Of Your Divorce

In Divorce Litigation, a judge controls the outcome of your future. This includes serious matters such as child custody and child support. If you and your spouse can mediate your divorce, both your and your spouse can make decisions on what is fair. You can come up with your own parenting plan, decide on how child and spousal support should be handled, etc.

You’re Afforded More Personal Attention

In Divorce Mediation, both you and your spouse are allowed to voice your own concerns related to your divorce. You’ll be working directly with a mediator whose role is to facilitate cooperative conversation regarding matters of your divorce, help negotiate disputes, and explore a variety of mutually beneficial avenues to consider regarding your final divorce settlement agreement. On the contrary, in Divorce Litigation, your case is being handled by a judge who is likely overworked, understaffed, and handling numerous cases. Judges have less time than mediators to truly get to know your family’s situation. They’ll be in direct contact with your attorneys, but you won’t be afforded the attention you may want or need from the judge, who will make the final decisions regarding your divorce.

A Faster Resolution Has Its Own Benefits

A faster resolution may be beneficial for many couples, especially if they have children. Divorce is stressful and nerve-wracking in and of itself. If a successful mediation is possible, it’s best to give it a try to get the stress of it all out of the way so you can move on with your life. Children who are exposed to the stressful ordeal of divorce shouldn’t have to sit in worry for two or more years, wondering how the rest of their lives will be after their parent’s divorce resolves through litigation.

Confidentiality Is A Plus

In Divorce Litigation, matters of your divorce are aired out in the courtroom. It can be extremely dreadful to have your problems discussed in a room full of strangers or in front of people that are a part of your community. In Divorce Mediation, however, sessions are held in private and the matters of your divorce are kept confidential.

There Is Greater Flexibility In Divorce Mediation

Since you’re not working around a court’s timetable in Divorce Mediation, you are afforded the time you need to fully understand how the decisions you make will affect your future life and the future life of you and your soon-to-be ex’s children. At Nassau County Divorce Mediation, we encourage our clients to take the time they need in between sessions. And our hours are extremely flexible.

Divorce Mediation Can Help Protect Children From Conflict

In a litigated divorce, children are dragged through lengthy and many times uncomfortable custody battles. They witness both their parents playing tug of war over them. The adversarial nature of divorce litigation may exacerbate conflict between two parents, and the party who will end up most affected is your child (especially if that conflict spills over into the family home and both parents reside there). When two spouses are high-conflict, a mediator will do their best reduce conflict to help them resolve their divorce through positive communication. This process may equip parents with the ability to handle their conflicts without hostility. It’s much healthier for a child to see their parents handle their conflicts through positive communication, and there’s a much better chance they will if they can successfully resolve their divorce through mediation.